‘No one likes rejection and since I resist being part of the “best” party, I usually find myself getting kicked out.’
Why do I resist? When something is considered “the best,” then the competition kicks it into another gear and the easy, relaxed, wonderful experiences begin to diminish. All of a sudden, things start changing, heads inflate, rules get stricter, security gets tighter, standards or maybe its quality that drops, prices rise through the roof and some folks find they can’t keep up. Thus, they get forced out. Then everything and everyone is trying to do and be the same because everyone is doing it. It looks a lot like gentrification.’
The preceding quote is an excerpt from a great post over at Building Windmills. It reminded me about a TV show that I think embodies much of the “best” mentality: “House Hunters.” The name pretty much sums up the show. Usually a couple is searching for the closest thing they can get to their ideal house in a given region — one within their budget. And the viewer watches as they tour three properties. I’ve only seen the show a few times, and, during such, pretty much only for as long as it takes to hear one half of a couple talk about how lacking a property is. Now, even withstanding that the show supposedly features people who’ve already bought their homes going through a sort of reenactment of the process (see this piece), dismissing a property as something you don’t want to buy is certainly anybody’s right–even by the most ridiculous, arbitrary kind of standards . . .
Thing is, often these properties that are lacking are somebody else’s perfectly livable home. They’re just so far from “bad,” and, even though the perception that they are might be relayed through one person’s perspective, the opinions about what’s “best” (however genuine or not) seem in tune with a larger sensibility in which one not only has options, one feels entitled to the best of them. Convenience, beautiful homes, culture and constant quiet? Frequently ‘best’ is as many virtues as possible, sort of like what the absolute newest smart phone offers (dang, I wish I had that one). It’s easy enough to want all these things, but buying virtues without working at them tends to mean buying into the appearance of something rather than anything of substance. And it can be a vain world, so that can certainly work in its own comfortable way. But who says that’s the best one?